Time to refuel
For multiple reasons, I (like most people) require coffee to get me thru the day. Sometimes it’s precisely prepared and enjoyed, two hands grasping the cup as I contemplate the view out the window. Other times, it’s a pre-ordered sprint into “the mermaid” (Starbucks) to grab some fuel on the way to a meeting.
But sometimes. . . it’s something else. On occasion I get to make a visit to “the mermaid”, or “the place with the cookies” (a local shop) because Little Guy and I are driving back from preschool and we want to take a little break before we head home. We select our drinks, maybe a snack, and after we sit down he usually kicks it off with a default, “so. . . how was your day, dada?” It’s important time that I very much look forward to.
Caffeine, in it’s own way, is medicine to me. Since I was a teenager, I have suffered from migraines and have sought out remedies and diagnosis from a multitude of doctors. In the end, it turns out that increasing my daily intake of caffeine has had incredible effect on my life. Once a week migraines have dissipated to one every few weeks. . . or so. And the intensity of the event has been greatly reduced. Medicine, indeed.
But my weekly visit to “the mermaid” (Starbucks is also referred to as “the place with the cake pops”) with my son is its own sort of medicine. After a day of being on the phone, in meetings, writing emails, invoicing, drafting contracts, and. . . oh, right. . . getting the actual work done, our little side trip becomes a welcome pause in the day; a necessary break from owning and operating my own business. It’s similar to running. . . or to the existence of this blog. I don’t necessarily think I “have time” for these things. . . . but they are so necessary to prevent myself from burning out.
For him, he selects his drink, places it on the counter, and says “thank you” to the cashier. Very much the way he learned to talk (by watching us and trying it out for himself), he is learning how to interact with people in public. Be nice. Wait your turn. Say thank you. Throw your trash away so that someone else doesn’t have to (this, apparently only applies to being in public. . . not necessarily to being at home, for some reason).
Most people have their own methodology. Meditation, reading, exercise. I’ve found that clearing my mind for a while really helps me re-focus on projects that I have running through the firm. Since I have a ready, willing, and able 3 year old, who’s willing to share the details of his day (and who is genuinely interested in mine), why not optimize this time and benefit from it in multiple ways? While breaking away for a bit, I get to connect with my son and dose myself with a little caffeinated medicine. What started as a rushed, scattered routine has become a vital piece to both of our schedules.