“Having a baby changes everything”, they say. Well, they’re very smart. But, let’s back it up about 10 months (because if you even THINK about mentioning that pregnancy only lasts 9 months, someone who has been, is currently, or will be pregnant in the future. . . is going to hit you). Actually, let’s back it up even further.
“I think we should have a baby.”
(cue record screech). . . .
Now, the concept of having a child in our lives did not come out of the blue by any means. We agreed before we were even married that we would be enjoying the company of little ones in our lives. There were just a few things that I wanted to get out of the way before we made the final commitment:
- Pass all of my Architectural Registration Exams
- Run another marathon – in less than 3 hours
- Design and build our house – with my bare hands and no help
- Learn to play the guitar – and start a band
- Be 100% financially secure – to the point where I never have to work ever again
I started to realize that maybe my “life goals” were being a little inflated to the point of unacheivability. . . until we were “ready”. So, either we wait for everything to be perfect, or we decide that we’re doing this. . . . THAT’S when everything changed. The second we decided that we were ready (or. . . ready as we’ll ever be), I started evaluating every aspect of my life; really, really important things:
- Do we have enough room for a baby (yes, how much room could a baby take up, 3 square feet?)
- Am I ready to have a baby and do I really have to change diapers?
- Should I work out more?
- I’m kind of hungry.
It’s really easy to get distracted when such an overwhelming decision has just been made.
So that was it. I was going to be a dad and I was really excited about it. That may have actually been the moment when I became a dad: the second I started considering what it all meant, the second we stepped into this new territory.
And the journey began…